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There have been many dodgy campaigns in the so called "rights for children", but are in reality only there for the sole purpose of securing the child as though they were a piece of property. Statistics can be skewed all they like, but at the end of the day most children are better off with their mothers after divorce. Nature knows it, criminologists know it and deep down we all knew it, but because the shared parenting campaign sold as well as the renown pyramid scheme - we all fell for it. Religious commentators might say that it was like scientists "playing god", but in this case it was male supremacists, robbing motherhood. In their own sense of paranoid delusions, they thought that single motherhood was an "invasion of feminism", but its not. Its mothers working extremely hard through all of the hate set against them to raise their children to become strong and good human beings. That is all, no matter how one tries to paint it, there is no more. Now, because children's rights have never been so appalling along with women's rights, mothers have embraced feminism like never before. The support every year for the white ribbon campaign grows every year and more people, whether men's groups like it or not are beginning to see through the FRs hatred and propaganda. I can be very thankful to learn that Australians are certainly not a dumb country as much as these vial groups represent. The more violent incidents against women and children, the more people begin to know who is the real problem. The continued support by dads in distress, dads on air members and even fathers4equality of a known perpetrator is a statement in itself that reveals what this group is truly about: Its not about and never was about men's rights - it was abusers rights. The right to conceal, the right to punish victims, the right to continue their terror unchallenged and most of all: The right to have judicial authority to continue to do this.
Know that there is indeed a war on children and motherhood.
Know that a critical mass can stop this
Know that the courts are accomplices in some of the most disgusting crimes of the century beyond 9/11 If we put all of the victims of this child and mother massacre: it would be classified as the greatest act of terror and genocide by the state and its actors.
According to a most recent submission to Australian Parliament the Executive Director of the Victims of Crime Assistance League Inc NSW (VoCAL), Robyn Cotterell-Jones, had attended on a Conference at the Sydney Family Court in 2005 and had found that Court staff session leaders had communicated ‘that the Family Court of Australia has realised it was not very good at Domestic Violence’. Interestingly on reading Robyn’s submission and comments suggested by a ‘Senior Mediator of the Court’ there are indications that Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) had been used in the Family Court affecting Findings of the Family Court of Australia. The very alleged ‘Syndrome’ that is not even a diagnosed condition.
Additionally Findings in the Family Court of Australia most recently have even given suggestive and condoned the practice of allowing abuse of children by giving the children over to ‘alienating’ and abusive fathers. The mother caught up via the Family Court of Australia’s mistaken ‘Findings’ are therefore inflicting further abuse upon the children and mothers; abuse by the father and abuse by the Father Court of Australia. A lose lose is not a win for the children; the mother’s relationship with the children becomes deteriorated until it is lost.
Mothers and children that have been abused are forced into agreeing agreements with abusive fathers, initially given Legal Aid then diagnosed with ‘Syndromes’ then dumped by the very Legal Representatives that were meant to support them. These alleged ‘Syndromes’ condoned by the Family Court which should never have been allowed are then used to determine whether Legal Aid funding should continue. Even though fathers placed in the high risk category make an inkling of a suggestion that the mother has ‘problems’ the father’s allegations are relied upon and the mothers face losing their Legal Support. The fathers use these manipulative practices to further burden mothers with having to fight the ongoing Family Court matters. The mothers although they are considered to have a ‘syndrome’ then need to carry through with having to represent themselves because Final Order in the Family Court need to be determined for the children. Often the fathers making these allegations that the mother has ‘problems’ leaving the father released from his abusive behaviours has teams of a Solicitor and a Representative; leaving the mother in turmoil and the father on easy street. Not only has the abuser got the children but he has the power and a head start while the mother wonders if justice exists.
Sexual, physical, psychological abuse or otherwise it is a manipulative power of abuse by fathers to receive control over their victims. Criminal Courts don’t condone abuse so why should the very Courts that are there to protect and determine children’s living and contact arrangements. Fathers that abuse full well know the damage that they commit on mothers and children, and could not possibly have empathy for their victims if the Family Court allow their negative behaviours continue.
In my previous Note the Human Rights and Equal Opportunity Commission (HREOC) had correctly concluded that there was untold damage done of domestic violence and that it needs to be correctly identified by the family court. HREOC further correctly indicated that not all victims of domestic violence had the added protection of Apprehended Violence Orders (AVO’s). Charges laid on perpetrators of domestic violence are not always carried through with for the protection of victims. Mothers and children are often left in fear of the perpetrator fathers. Furthermore because perpetrator fathers concentrate on making themselves the victim rather than the perpetrator putting both mothers and children in unenviable positions in the eyes of the Courts; causing more ‘problems’ without the Legal Aid so badly needed to protect the children.
Robyn Cotterell-Jones for VoCAL strongly submitted to the Australian Parliament “We have noticed that where the children are made to live with the abusive parent by court order, the pain of the non-abusive parent and family can be unbearable – basically because we Australians feel betrayed, because we believed, somewhat naively, that a child has the right to live without abuse and that Australian State and Federal Governments have strategies that support that view both here and overseas. But we have found out, by experience, that we were quite wrong.”
Mothers are left to pick up the pieces and trust that for the future their children do not end up with more ‘problems’ that they had been inflicted on them by the abuser and incorrect decisions. Additionally that their future grandchildren do not wind up with these ‘problems’. The problems of Family Court Staffers become everybody’s problem when even the alleged ‘Experts’ of the Family Court can’t get it right.
As a victim of abuse I am impressed by the comments by Pru Goward of the Human Rights and Equal Opportunity Commission (HREOC) in the most recent submission to the Senate Committee in regard to the ‘Inquiry into the provisions of the Family Law Amendment (Shared Parental Responsibility) Bill 2005’. She recognised that there were many strains of family violence and brought up that that trained staff were needed for Family Relationship Centres in order to detect and respond to allegations of abuse that were not raised. Currently in the community there is a notion of ‘ask and you’ll receive’ in other words there is the opinion that if no help is asked for then no help is given. But abuse is not always spoken about and is a silent deadly killer of women and children. Some women and children speak out and some women and children stay silent. In the regard to the Family Law Court it is obvious that sometimes it is not worth speaking out so there becomes a lose lose situation for both mothers and children.
And to lay to rest the opinion of men’s rights groups that give their ridiculous ‘statistical’ attitudes over to their members I add the following comments verbatim by Pru Howard of HREOC:
Gerald Nissenbaum, a family lawer and a columnist from the bosten herald stated:
Japanese divorce laws almost always award the kids to the mother unless she’s proven unfit. Japan also hasn’t adopted the applicable Hague Convention.
Japan is one of the few countries left on earth that honours mothers and truly appreciate the unique gift of what motherhood can provide for children. With children as men's property back in fashion, the world has embraced a disturbing trend. Embedded within the Japanese culture are some of the most humanistic religions that do not force one to consider religious teachings without first questioning logic.
Japan has a great history of quickly embracing western ways, but not without careful consideration. Japan has promised to review whether it will sign the treaty, but aimed to investigate it properly first. Something, other governments have failed to do and have unnecessarily reacted upon pressure of angry men's groups.
